Ok, I'm having this debate with myself about whether to have C-section or try and do normal delivery. I feel like I have a million pros and cons going on and I guess i'm just looking for some advice from some of you momma's that may have been there.... so i hope my i get my point across....here is my thinking
SO I had C-section with the boys, because I have an autoimmune disorder (been in remission for about 7 years now) and first doctor thought that if it was ever going to 'come back' that it would be at a time when my body was too fatigued (aka being in labor). He was worried that I would start into labor and not be able to finish, and end up having to do c section anyway.... I didn't really feel like I would have any trouble, but just did what the doctor said basically. After having C-section and recovering so quickly, my doctor told me I did so great, and my recovery was great, that I could totally try going natural next time.
Doctor in Wenatchee basically thought that was kind of silly that first doctor did c-section and said, "I guess there is some thinking with that, but not really." hmmmmmm....
Haven't talked to my current doctor much about it, because Thomas and I agreed we would just do C-section here, looked like the best option... now im second guessing....
but yes. It looks like I can do vaginal delivery if I want.
Some things I don't like about the idea..... I have to go to Tri-Cities do have baby. when my water broke and I went up to hospital with the twins, they did an ultra sound and told me I was having contractions every two minutes, and that Baby A was already quite far in birth canal.... what? I hadn't felt anything. what if I go into labor again and I don't even know it? Will my contractions not hurt again? How am I supposed to know when to leave to tri cities if I can't even feel contractions? It's an 1 1/2 hours drive. Just that thought there stresses me out. Plus what if Thomas is at work (1/2 hr in other direction) that makes it 2 hours minimum that I could make it to Tri-Cities.
However a normal delivery apparently means a much better recovery. With the boys I had an awesome recovery. I felt great in like a week. BUT the boys were also in the NICU that whole time, and so I didn't have any kids to take care of. This time around i'll have three, but depending on when I was to have to baby Thomas will be home from August 20th- Sept 23, so that would help lots too right.
I have always wanted to experience normal delivery and if I have C-section this time it decreases my chances of a doctor doing a vbac next time dramatically. Another thing that scares me a bit about being in tri-cities is I have never been to the hospital, seen any doctors, or have any connections at all with anyone who has even ever been there. I know people do stuff like this all the time, but what do I do with my kids too? anyway probably have more thoughts to go with all this, but it's starting to get jumbled. If anyone has any thoughts, please let me know! I'm hoping some of you have maybe gone through a vbac and can give me some pointers.
Things that I like about staying here in Moses Lake, is that is a scheduled planned date, it happens at 39 weeks (which means less time being pregnant lol), and the hospital is practically up the street.
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i dont know what to tell you cause ive never had both... but just knowing id have to go 1 1/2 hours to deliver my baby would be reason enough for me to do another c-section... too scary for me
I haven't done a VBAC, but I have several friends who have done it, and really loved their experience, especially compared with the C-section recovery time. I think that this really depends on each person's body... I know there can be greater risks with the scar tissue that builds up causing problems with the placenta for future pregnancies, and it can make it more scary to have more than 4 pregnancies (at least that's what most doctors say - whether it's true or liability). I've also heard that recovery time from C-sections is different for each one you do, kinda like each labor & delivery is different.
I think if your doctor is confident in how your body is looking, and if your uterus was in good shape from last time, I would aim for a VBAC. Especially if you aren't feeling your contractions, why not have a fairly painless labor and easier to recover from delivery? Too bad the hospital isn't closer to you,though. Does the hospital that's closer to you just not have emergency C-sections? Is that why you'd have to go to Tri-cities? All those stupid liability rules...
Maybe the ultimate solution would be to ask Thomas to give you a blessing to give you some insight to what you should prepare for. Knowing now that you didn't feel your contractions last time, you can watch your body more carefully this one and know what to expect... even if you're not feeling pain, you should still be able to actually touch your stomach muscles and feel them tighten. Timing those, even if you're not feeling the pain, could help you get an idea of when to leave.
I hope you can get a sense of relief about what to do soon! Good luck with everything!
I think it can't hurt to try doing a vaginal birth. Also I know having c sections can limit the number of kids you can have because they can only cut you open so many times because of the scar tissue.
There are definitely risks with both but I had a VBAC for Maia and it was an awesome experience. I'm still on the fence with this baby....weighing the risks. It makes me nervous for rupture but then I remember how awesome Maia's birth went and it sways me back. I got to do the whole go into labor thing with Maia and rush to the hospital which was kind of fun and different than my first experience and the birth itself was way more intimate than a C-section....although I don't mind C-sections either (like I said....can't decide with this one.) It's hard because the doctor I had had with Maia new me very well and had been my doctor for a very long time including operating on me for my endometriosis so I really trusted him. That made all the difference for me in that decision. Good Luck!
Oh, and the recovery for either wasn't really a factor. They were both fine and not bad at all. Everyone makes C-section deliveries sound so much worse but either way you're exhausted and healing. I healed from both quickly.
Oh, and one more thing. :) I talked to my doctor down here about the factor of not having to be able to have very many kids with each C-section and he said that it's not true. That's what the rest of the country says (most doctor's outside of Utah will tell you only 2 C-sections...maybe three) but in Utah they do many. Some people get 6 or so and they are fine. Utah doctors maybe get a little more experience in that though. Ha! All us Mormon babies!
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